Don't get married in the philippines!!!! | Pinakabagong balita tungkol sa marriage in the philippines

Moving her to the West is even worse!

I plan retire in philippines been married I do not intend marriage again and got children not any more children I worked all my life I want live my life for years I got to live

Hi…. maybe you didnt meet the true filipina who really love you even thru richer and poorer till death do us part.

Sadly poor you are right… in my last marriage at the end I just felt neutered and miserable

I have seen so many American guys on the verge of suicide, after their Filipina wife dumped them in the worst way, and then took everything they had. One case in point would be my friend Terry. I knew Terry for several years before he flew to the Philippines and married his wife, but did not meet her until several years later, when Terry invited me over to his condo for that purpose.

I arrived at Terry’s residence that evening to find that his wife had not returned from work. When she appeared several hours later, my friend asked her where she had been, and she replied that it was none of his business. (If you marry a Filipina, don’t be surprised if she speaks to you in this manner). She ten threatened to leave him if he dared to ask her again. I had to stand there watching my friend trying to hold back his tears. Not long after that, my friend’s wife brow beat him into cashing in his retirement account for a “family emergency”, which she refused to specify the nature of, telling him that it was none of his business.

One day a few months after this, a younger, better looking American guy knocked on his condo door, and introduced himself as his wife’s boyfriend. He then proceeded to tell my friend that he would not be seeing his wife anymore because they were moving in together. As if this were not enough, this guy then told Terry that if he really loved his wife, he would move out of their condo, and let he and her live there. This was the first that my friend had heard of any of this. . . When he got over his shock enough to speak, he told his wife’s boyfriend that he refused to move.

Four days later, a Deputy Sheriff showed up at his door, with a court order giving him an hour to vacate the premises. This was in the evening, so Terry had to immediately find a place to stay for the night. When Terry tried to use his credit card, he found that his wife had over charged it, and when he visited an ATM, he found that his wife had emptied his joint accounts. He slept that night in his car.

A couple of weeks later, my friend Terry was serviced with a court notice to appear for a divorce hearing. At the hearing, he learned that his wife was divorcing him for supposed abused (when actually she had been abusing him all these years), and two other Filipinos whom he had never seen in his life, testified on her behalf.

In the end, my friend Terry was left penniless, without a retirement, and without his condo, although he had to continue to make the payments on it for the next 20 years. Not only that but he had to pay off his former wife’s credit card debt. Was my friend’s wife a “bad” person. No. Not at all, at least by her culture.

Then, there was my friend Dan. . . Same thing. She met a younger guy with a higher paying job. . . At least she said that she was sorry, which is the first time I have ever heard of a Filipina using that word to his wife. I could go on concerning other friends. . . Again, you cannot blame his face. You may blame her culture, but not her.

If you feel that you must absolutely marry a Filipina, then at least protect yourself. Open a separate secret bank account first thing, in a different bank than the one that you use with your wife. Secondly, do not tie your credit cards to hers. Yes. That’s right. Let her apply for her own credit cards through different banks than your cards are tied to. Next, if you absolutely have to have a joint account with your wife (you don’t, by the way), then open it in your name “and” hers, not your name “or” hers. Yeah, yeah. . . I know that your mommy and daddy always had joint bank accounts, using the word “or”, and joint savings, and checking, and credit cards, but you dad was not married to a Filipina.

Once again everything is culture. I could sit here and tell you about the Philippine culture, but you wouldn’t believe me, because you think that right/wrong, good/bad are universal concepts, and that everyone has exactly the same values as we have in the West. It ain’t true by a long sight, but that is what you have been indoctrinated to believe. Only one thing can disabuse you of that belief, and that is to live among the people in a third world country for a minimum of two years. Now note that I did not say live in a gated community, or a condo. I said, “Among the people”. By “people”, I mean the average everyday folks. Only then will you very gradually learn what is right and wrong, and good and bad to them. In short, their values, and how they think.

Don't let emotions supersede common sense , some not all when marry a Filipina you marry their family.

Am sorry but that kind of marriage by your friend with a Filipina is a small percentage compared to the many happy marriages by a foreigner to a Filipina. This situation could also happen in some foreigner woman in other countries.

Paul’s right about marriage, especially to a Filipina. I would not think about marrying a Filipina unless you have an ego as big as the State of Texas, or you just plain like being verbally abused. On top of that, don’t count on your Filipina wife ever using the word “Please”, or “Thank you”, or “asking” you to do anything. Instead, you will be told, and commanded. Example: She will not “ask” you to empty the trash. Instead, she will command you to do it. Why? It has to do with pride, saving face, and ego. A Filipina cannot allow herself lose face, or be demeaned vis a vis her husband. A Filipina see’s asking her husband, or using the word please, or thank you to him as demeaning. Now, I don’t know about you, but I do not like being treated in this manner. It hurts my feelings to be talked to like that. I mentioned verbal abuse. . . By verbally abusing her husband, a Filipina gains face, pride, and ego. Get the picture?

Yeah, I know what you’re thinking. . . “I’ll just sit down, and calmly talk to my wife about the situation. I’ll tell her how it makes me feel to be treated in that manner. We’ll work it out. . .” Yeah, right! Sorry, but that is not how it works with a Filipina wife. Before you can even finish your first sentence, she will fiercely attack you, and insult you, putting you instantly on the defensive. You see, a Filipina wife can not allow you to win an argument either, for the same reason. She loses face, and she is demeaned. Oh! Did I mention that a Filipina wife cannot follow any suggestion, or idea a husband may have. Why? The same reason. In her mind she would lose face, and be demeaned if she did so. Conversely, a Filipina wife can never compliment, or even admit that her husband can be right about something, for the same reason. You are always wrong, and your ideas are stupid. Moral support: You’ll love this one. .. When you come home with a compliant about how someone wronged you, or abused you during your day, you can always count upon your Filipina wife to take the side of the other person, against you, although she has never met, or even heard of the other person involved. How do you like them apples? Again, it’s for the same reason. A Filipina wife cannot allow herself to admit that you could be be in the right. By casting you as always in the wrong she boost her own ego.

Yeah, I know what you’re thinking. . . You’re thinking, “My Filipina girlfriend is different! She’s the opposite of all that! She sweet, shy, demure, kind, understanding, respectful of me, non aggressive, etc., etc.” Well, of course she is! Because you are not married to her. Remember in the Philippine culture, one is never frank, never shows their true feelings, or personality. Instead, one always says what they think the other person wants to hear, and acts the way they think you wish them to act. But, that goes away almost instantly right after marriage. You see, we westerners are a naturally frank people. In fact, it’s difficult for us to hide our true thoughts, and personality for long. Little by little as the courtship relationship continues, one’s true self starts to emerge, but not with a Filipino. It’s easy for a Filipino to hide their true self. It causes them no stress, or stain at all.

How do I know this? Because I lived in the Philippines for six years, then I moved to the island of Saipan where 30% of the pop is Filipino for another 15 years, then I moved to the island of Guam, where 40% of the pop is Filipino. Along the way, I married two Filipinas, and became friends with over a dozen Americans, also married to Filipinas. They all experienced a very rude awakening upon marrying their Filipina girlfriend with the exception of two.

Now, I could go into the unfaithfulness of the vast majority of Filipina wives, and why that is, but I tire.

But, hey, don’t take my word for any of this. Instead, when you visit the Philippines, do not land in Manila. Instead, land at the Clark Economic Zone airport, 50 miles north. People say this airport is located in Angeles City, but in reality, the exact barangay is called Dau. Now in Dau, right outside the airport gate is located a fine VFW (Veterans Of Foreign War’s) club, bar, and restaurant with 1000 American members. Walk in and talk to 20 or 30 of the American retirees who have lived in the Philippines for ten, twenty or more years, and educate yourself on Filipino culture. Don’t forget to ask them how many honest Filipinos they have met. . .

If you are thinking of marrying a Filipina, it is essential that you understand her culture. Remember, there are no universal rights or wrongs. One’s culture determines what is right, wrong, good, bad to an individual. If you do not know the culture, you are an extremely vulnerable babe in the woods. For instance, Is theft, rape, or scamming wrong in the Philippines?

IF AN AMERICAN TAKES A FILIPINA BACK TO THE STATES, HE IS REALLY STUPID!~ GUARANTEED 100% AMERICA WILL RUIN HER, AND AS MY UNCLE JOHN USED TO SAY, THE SCREWING YOU ARE GONNA GET AIN'T LIKE THE SCREWING YOU ARE GOING TO GET!

There is no advantage in being married. I have finally worked that out.
Soon I will have to find an attorney to file annulment.

Always rent before buyiung

There are no benefits to marriage for a man. It does not create a better, closer bond. What marriage will do is give the woman power over you. She can now take half your stuff. In some places that includes half your income for life as well. Even here in the US there are states where this is true. Not even a Prenup can save you. Marriage makes you "RESPONSIBLE" for her not the other way around. Once married she no longer needs to please you, but you better please her. Marriage turns an otherwise great relationship into a one sided sh*t show.

When you enter married life , then your days of happiness are gone

There's no benefit of getting married for man

What a depressive point of view. Of course we have to be careful, but I won't spend my life obsessed the world is out there to get my money.

Worth it watch again.

I think you are describing marriage in any part of the world. However, the mistake many westerners make in the Philippines, is marring a woman much younger than you. That holds hidden problems in any part of the world.
I married a Filipina that was my age. I married her in the Philippines and brought her home to the west. I fathered her children, nurtured her family, and promoted her education.
Now, she makes 100,000 a year, and I am in early retirement. I could never have accomplished this without her.
We are now looking at retiring in the Philippines, and starting a farm.

DEAR PAUL YOU ARE A VERY WISE GENTLEMAN. WOMEN NOWADAYS DO NOT APPRECIATE PEOPLE LIKE US. WE ARE LIKED FOR THE INITIAL PERIOD OF THE MARRIAGE BUT EVENTUALLY FADES AWAY SO WE MEN FOUND OURSELVES IN DISADVANTEGEOUS POSITION. WE MEN CANNOT BE STACKED IN ONE WOMAN ALL OUR LIFE. MUSLIMS MAY BE RIGHT HAVING MORE THAN ONE PROVIDING THEY CAN MAINTAIN THEM. YET MARRIAGE IN 21ST CENTURY HAS LOST ITS VALUE. MONEY PLAYS A GREAT ROLE IN WOMEN TO DECIDE FOR THEIR LIFETIME PARTNER. IF I HAD THE POWER I WOULD ABOLISH MARRIAGE PERMANENTLY OR MAKE IT LIKE EMPLOYMENT CONTRACT ONE YEAR OR TWO YEARS ETC CONTRACT. CHILDREN BE ABLE TO BE TAKEN CARE BY THE COVERNMENT. I KNOW CHURCH PEOPLE WILL DISAGREE WITH ME BUT IF YOU LOOK THE RATE OF DIVORCE ALL OVER THE WORLD YOU ARE SHOCKED. THANK YOU FOR YOUR ADVICE. PLEASE KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.

Your best video that I have seen… with a little less red pill seasoning it would be perfect!